The Mother, of Aurobindo Ashram, in her writings on education gives us clear basic sign-posts that we as parents should follow. I have tried to express that in my own words.
- Never to set a bad example. If you want your child to be calm, be calm. If you want him to be truthful, be truthful. Practise what you preach. Then you will find that your kids will manifest all the good qualities you want them to have.
- Never be impatient
- Never get irritable or angry.
- Never ask them to blindly obey you
- Never force them to do what you want them to do irrespective of whether they like it or not.
- When your child asks you a question, do not give him a stupid or silly answer under the pretext that he cannot understand you. Explain to them at a level they can understand appropriate to their age and use stories or tales.
- Do not scold your child without good reason and only when it is necessary. A child who is too often scolded gets used to scolding and no longer attaches much importance to words or severity of tone.
- Take good care never to scold him for a fault which you yourself commit.
- You should not allow any fear to come between you and your child; fear is not a good way to educate : it usually gives rise to cheating and lying.
- You have to control yourself constantly to be equal to your task and truly fulfil the duty which you owe your child by the mere fact of having brought him into the world.