How to create change: Part 3- Focusing on the positive

When you look at the world, things and circumstances in a certain way repeatedly, your brain starts to see the world, things and circumstances in that way. This will influence the way we act and experience the world.

If we look at things negatively, we will act negatively and experience the world in a negative way.

If we look at things positively, we will act positively and experience the world in a positive way.

We have to remember that the brain cannot process everything and hence filters out the things based on the way it sees things. If we see things negatively, it filters out the positive aspects and vice-versa.

We see what we look for and miss the rest. This is because of inattentional blindness- our inability to see what is often right in front of us if we are not focusing on it directly. Hence we can miss a lot of things which are ‘obvious’.

We also have selective perception. When we are looking for something we see it everywhere. Think of the colour red. Now look around. I am sure you will see a lot of red coloured things.

So if we see in a way so that we constantly pick up on the positives in every situation, we scan the world for opportunities and ideas that allows our success to grow.

When we look at the positive in every situation, three things happen:

  • We are happy because positive things make us happy.
  • We are grateful because positive things make us feel grateful.
  • We are optimistic because of all the positive things  we see.

Once we become positive, we become lucky, because we expect good things to happen and they do happen.

Some ways of focusing on the positive are:

  • Write down a list of ‘three good things’ that happened that day every day.
  • Write a short journal entry about a positive experience
  • Ritualise the above tasks and keep the necessary items easily accessible and convenient
  • Look at the world with rose-tinted glasses: Keep the really major problems in your field of vision while still keeping your focus largely on the positive.

 

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