When we want to get something, acquire or accomplish anything with lasting results, there are many ways and levels to attract it. If it is by looks, then we need to be disciplines in diet and exercise, etc. If it is by knowledge, we need to put effort into studying. If it is by wealth, we need to make a lot of personal sacrifice and work hard over a period of time. If it is by a kind heart and maturity, then we have to mentally train ourselves through awareness, practice and consistency. Whatever the method, effort with results is key.
When we do things continuously and with effort, there will be results. When we do it sporadically, our results will be sporadic. If we only go to the gym once every six months, we will look like we go to the gym once every six months. If we only drive by a gym once every six months, we will look like we only drive by a gym once every six months. Similarly, if we meditate, focus, practise and control our minds with the Dharma every single day, we will look like we control our minds. We will look like we are practising the Dharma. We will see transformation.
If you blame others for everything wrong in your life, you give control over your life to them. If you control your life, you cannot blame others.
Saving does not come from an outer source. It comes from yourself.
Courage is not doing something in the absence of fear but knowing that something else is more important than fear. So we do it.
Not liking something indicates something deeper. Avoiding what we do not like does not help our mind overcome these self-imposed difficulties and improve to have peace.
SOLUTION Face it head on. When you come to a cross-road, always pick the more difficult path because when you apply yourself, you will see the difficulties become easier. Next time, what was difficult before will not be difficult anymore.
The heroes we see in everyday life are just like you and me, except they are not afraid to be wrong, to admit their mistakes or to admit they are afraid. And in spite of the mistakes and fear, they achieve what they set out to do anyway.
It is only when you fall down that you can see how strong you are. When you fall down and you stay down – and you complain, bitch, make people feel sorry for you, want people to give you things – it shows you your lack of strength. It is when you fall down and you are humble, you push yourself and you can never stop that shows that you really practise.
When you say you can do something, you may fall and fall flat on your face. That does not mean you have not achieved it – it means you are on the road to achieving it.
Perhaps going after goals and commitments is another tactic to delay committing to compassion.
If we look around us, if we are honest with ourselves and examine the difficulties we have in our lives, we should begin to question where these difficulties came from. Who gave them to us/ Who created them? We have to be every honest, in the silence of our rooms, alone with our minds and we have to ask ourselves, ” Was I the cause and author of all of this?” If we are honest with ourselves, we will realise that we most likely were.
Commitment is not about how many obstacles you face. Commitment is about how much you want it.
When someone tells you something you do not like, push yourself to listen. Push yourself to be open. Push yourself to change your habit of closing people out.
Gymnasts, lazy people, complainers and successful people have all practised to be what they are good at. So if you keep practising being lazy, you will be lazy. If you keep practising complaining, you will always complain. If you practise compassion, generosity, patience, working hard and having a bigger vision, you will become better at it with time because you will create the causes to become better. You are practising to become better.
Why run way, avoid and deny? Why not give in to concern, acting for others, great love, generosity, offering of time, effort or care for others, acceptance, patience and calm abiding? That is who we really are… if Enlightenment is not within, then where might it be?
-Tsem Tulku Rinpoche