This twelve step method of living your life is adapted from the Twelve Steps of Alcoholics Anonymous. This is a simple, beautiful way of living that will lead to peace and contentment in our lives.
1. We admitted we were powerless over addiction—that our lives had become unmanageable.
The first step is realizing and admitting to the fact that all of our lives will sometimes be difficult and we are powerless to change this. It is such a relief to accept this fact.
2. Came to believe that a power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity.
3. Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God as we understood Him.
We need to open ourselves to the possibility of a higher power that may help us and that we are willing to surrender to. When we realize that we do not have control over our lives and the events that take place, a well deserved rest will emerge.
4. Made a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves.
We can then move into tender soul-searching. When we rest in a state of surrender, it is easy to see who we are, what we create, and what is our part in our worries.
5. Admitted to God, to ourselves, and to another human being the exact nature of our wrongs.
Admit what we have created in our surroundings that is not life affirming. Accept the shortcomings of other people. See this more as human characteristics and not failures or flaws, and judge no one.
6. Were entirely ready to have God remove all these defects of character.
7. Humbly asked Him to remove our shortcomings.
We surrender to the higher power. We ask the higher power to take care of our worries and our less life affirming characteristic. we ask them to be removed.
8. Made a list of all persons we had harmed, and became willing to make amends to them all.
If people around us have experienced pain and despair, because of our way of reacting; we try to make them right – as lovingly as we can – our wrong doings.
9. Made direct amends to such people wherever possible, except when to do so would injure them or others.
We seek reconciliation with the events in our lives.
10. Continued to take personal inventory, and when we were wrong, promptly admitted it.
We continue to search within ourselves.
11. Sought through prayer and meditation to improve our conscious contact with God as we understood Him, praying only for knowledge of His will for us and the power to carry that out.
12. Having had a spiritual awakening as the result of these steps, we tried to carry this message to other addicts, and to practice these principles in all our affairs.
When we follow this process, a longing is born within us; a longing to continue to deal with life in this way. If we have people around us who support us, this becomes easier. This is about finding multiple ways of being in contact with the Higher Power-Love, God, or whatever we choose as our higher power. This becomes easier when you surround yourself with the people who support and encourage you. This encourages you to share this wisdom to the world around you.
These steps will help you understand the Serenity Prayer:
The Serenity Prayer: God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference.
They will also help you float gently along the stream of life to the Ocean of Peace, Fulfillment and Joy.