Stories 50: The Fragrance Of A Rose

The disciples were absorbed in a discussion of Lao Tzu’s dictum:

Those who know do not say;
Those who say do not know.

When the master entered, they asked him what the words meant.

Said the Master, “Which of you knows the fragrance of a rose?”

All of them knew.

Then he said, “Put it into words.”

All of them were silent.

Stories 49: The Meaning Of The Welcoming Smile Of A Lover

He opened his eyes and looked at her. She greeted him with a mocking, enigmatic smile in which was a poignant gaiety. Over his face went the reflection of the smile, he smiled, too, purely unconsciously.

That filled her with extraordinary delight, to see the smile cross his face, reflected from her face. She remembered that was how a baby smiled. It filled her with extraordinary radiant delight.

“You’ve done it,” she said.

“What?” he asked, dazed.

“Convinced me.”

And she bent down, kissing him passionately, passionately, so that he was bewildered. He did not ask her of what he had convinced her, though he meant to. He was glad she was kissing him. She seemed to be feeling for his very heart to touch the quick of him. And he wanted her to touch the quick of his being, he wanted that most of all.

-D.H. Lawrence, Women in Love

Notice how the story opens the heart and mind to experience that which cannot be described. The taste of chocolate or the scent of a rose can never be expressed in words but a story may enable a trace of recognition of what is inexpressible.

On Wanting

Grasping is the killer of enlightenment. – Russel Williams

Wanting means to yearn for something we do not have at present. This means that we are not satisfied with the way things are at present. And in such a state, it is extremely difficult, if not impossible to be contented; to be happy with the way things are at the moment. We want because we think we will become more fulfilled by satisfying that want. But does it truly satisfy, or it just appeases us for some time? And then we want something else. In my experience, it just appeases but does not make us contented.

The paradox of wanting is that without wanting something more than what is at present, we could not have grown or developed to this extent. And after sometime, the wanting that was a help, becomes the bar.

At some point in our evolution, wanting does fulfill a purpose by helping to achieve things of a certain nature. But at an another point in our evolution, we start asking ourselves whether this wanting is fulfilling or draining. This point is personal to each one of us and only we can make the distinction. Yes, things that we see or read or experience may help us realise that distinction but it cannot be taught. It has to be caught.

We then realise a few things:

  • Wanting creates dissatisfaction with our present state
  • Wanting is a process which never ends

Once we realise this, we can just let go of wanting, just like letting go of a hot coal in our hands and just be. Once we let go like this, we become peaceful and joyful. Once that peace fill us, it makes us realise that all is one song and we are a verse; all is one ocean and we are the waves; all is one uni- verse. Then we can easily surrender to this One Thing which I like to call the Divine. The Divine then flows through you purifying your body, thoughts, feelings and soul and one becomes one with the Divine.

This is easy to formulate intellectually, but to be this, every moment is to enlightened. And that is difficult….way too difficult. All that one can do is surrender, aspire and in time the grace of the Divine will do the Work. To be contented with what is and allow the peace and joy to flow through you without trying to get anything or achieve anything; to be a nobody and paradoxically you become everybody. Could this be the secret?

God Bless.